over coming self doubt

Self doubt is a thing, and it is a hard thing. Your mind swirls with insecurities so frequently that sometimes you almost wonder if you have any securities. It is easy to feel doubtful of yourself in that specific moment, you try and justify it, but then ultimately you are able to conclude that you feel that almost always. But! Let me tell you, you a great. No, not in a cheesy way that will make you throw up, but in a genuine real life person type of a way.

The mind is a funny tool. It has the ability to create so much good, but it has that much power to destroy yourself. This quote is one that has made me think differently about life it states: 

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" --Marianne Williamson

When you change the mindset of creating greatness, rather than not being at greatness right there in that specific moment something changes. Imagine yourself at the age of 30. You are possibly married, maybe you have children or pets, and you are trying to build a career and life that is conducive to the future you want...it is easy to feel discouraged and just feel crappy about yourself in general. Life does not go as planned! You can not expect to wake up where you want to be. It is a progress, keep moving and do not doubt yourself. As the wise Ralph Waldo Emerson once said “Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string."  

Stop that mindset now of self-hate and do not go back. 

Right now I am at a stage in my life that I think of as being extremely vulnerable. Relationships, religion, school, career, families, all seem to be on a pendulum, not stable (for the most part, there are exceptions though) and feeling a lack of balance. It is so easy to sink into the rabbit hole that never ends of self doubt. When something goes wrong it is almost the easiest thing to use the cough out and say that it was because you are not good enough to go out with him, or that your family is too good for you, or even that the book was so much more put together than you will ever be, and it is just words! Life can be discouraging and often times (especially at the time where we are at) it can feel like quick-sand wanting to eat you for breakfast with a side of pity. But it does not have to be like this. 

Find things that make you confident. Make other people feel confident--it is amazing how when we reach out to others and make them feel good we often feel better as well. Find a moment to be alone and give yourself self affirmations. If you are in a toxic situation where it feels seemingly impossible to feel confident than leave it. Yes, drop it like it is hot. Build yourself, build others, and within those ways you will begin to feel self doubt flee faster than the new Lexus models (joking, but really you will feel better about life in general). Use your mind as a tool to better filter out the negative and build an environment in which people around you can feel of that positivity. 

I remember having a neighbor whose goal was to make everyone feel good about themselves. I wondered how it was possible to see that much good in everyone...until one day I remembered that what she felt was genuine and that she had to work for it. Whenever people were around her they felt better, sometimes it drove me up the wall when people that were really rude would all of the sudden turn nice when they were around her, I felt like they were faking it, until one day I realized that they felt a legitimate niceness from being with her. 

In somethings it is easier to feel doubtful than others, for example when I am working out I feel confident and strong. When I am going into a test I feel like the stupidest person to have ever walked the earth. Do not let those weaknesses win! 

Remember that each of us have those things that we roll our eyes doing, and other things that will make you want to cry, and maybe you even have something that makes you victorious...try to each aspect victorious. 

Rant over.